Comments on: Good News is Hard to Hear

By: Marcia Feola

Marcia Feola — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 02:39:55 +0000

Hi Sundi! I am glad you liked the exercise. I love that you want to get better at accepting positive feedback. Years ago, when my internal critic had the upper hand I made a decision to ask for positive feedback. Research shows that we can’t undo old tapes but we can create new ones but it requires repetition. So I made a point of telling my students and clients that I wanted to know what I had done that supported their learning. I specifically asked them not to give me negative feedback ( I had that handled). It was a huge gift to myself!! Taking in the information gave me more clarity about what I did that people found helpful, so I could repeat it. It also gave me a better picture of what I brought to any engagement and it was very energizing.
Acknowledgement and positive feedback is fuel to our souls, right?? Go for it!!

By: Marcia Feola

Marcia Feola — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 02:25:53 +0000

Absolutely, I agree. It’s very energizing to get positive feedback and creates incentive to repeat the behavior that was recognized. I think too many organizations focus too much on the negative or on what needs to get done, which can lead to discouragement. Putting more focus on the positive keeps a more balance perspective and really does shift the energy. Thanks for the comment! Glad you are seeing good results.

By: Dilip

Dilip — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 09:21:15 +0000

Hi, interesting post. My experience in organizations and now as a teacher – when I genuinely acknowledge and appreciate others it creates a positive response. The energy levels in the class also go up. Thanks.

By: Sundi D. Hayes

Sundi D. Hayes — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 16:38:21 +0000

I love the visual exercise of placing how far you’ve come and how far you want to go in each hand. I’m going to get better at accepting compliments. It is definitely something I’d like to do gracefully!